How to Make Prayer Feel More Natural
Praying can be hard! It isn’t always easy figuring out what you are supposed to say as you present yourself to the Creator of the Universe. You may feel confused, overwhelmed, fake, or even stupid–I’ve been there! And I am happy to share with you that you can make prayer feel more natural and less intimidating.
Accept Prayer May Feel Uncomfortable
Step number one in this process is accepting the fact that praying will probably feel completely unnatural at first. If you haven’t prayed before, or are used to a certain type of prayer, a personal way of praying could be way outside of your comfort zone. That’s okay!! Just as with anything else, it takes some practice getting used to it.
Most importantly, remember to pray in Jesus’s name and to try your best to align your prayers with God’s will and bringing Him glory (think related to scripture, to grow closer to Him or learn more about Him, to overcome something that is keeping you from Him, to turn others to Him, etc.).
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
Whatever you ask in My name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.
*Scripture quotations are from The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Make Prayer a Habit
There are two key ways that repetition can help make prayer feel more natural. One is just simply by continuously repeating the action.
Make a habit of prayer.
Like I said, the more you practice praying naturally, the more natural it will begin to feel. This method works with personal prayer as well as corporate prayer, or praying out loud (which can be scary!).
Although I’m not a huge fan of this method, you can also use repetition in the sense of actually repeating pre-written prayers, such as the Our Father, which Jesus gave us as recorded in Matthew:
Pray then like this:
Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be Your name,
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
This can be a good method, but it can also be dangerous. Just before Jesus gives this framework, He warns against praying meaningless prayers–just saying empty words–and that is easy to do when you are just repeating a memorized prayer.
And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.
I believe that Jesus gave us the Our Father as an outline to model more intimate prayer rather than something we are to recite. But there are ways to make this prayer, or any other of your choosing, more personal as well–which, in turn, also helps make prayer feel more natural! You can:
- Try re-writing the prayer in your own words, with verbiage that applies directly to your life and circumstances
- Think deeply on what each line means to you and how it relates to your own life as you recite it
- Choose different prayers that resonate with you rather than just using the same one every time (while also finding a way to personalize and relate to it)
Build Your Relationship With God
One of the most important things I heard about prayer early in my walk with God was to simply talk as you would to a friend. Out loud, in your head, alone in the car, with your littles chiming in–whatever works. You may struggle with finding the right words or expressing yourself properly, but it will get easier the more you practice!
This is a great way to make prayer feel more natural because you are incorporating it naturally into your day–noticing little pockets of time while you are doing chores, running errands, eating, playing with your kids–and this is the perfect way to create a new habit and lose that awkwardness.
And you are not only creating a new habit by making time to “practice” praying, you are–more importantly–building a relationship with God. Making an effort to spend time with Him and learning to communicate better with Him will not go unnoticed.
“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.”
He wants to hear from us. He wants a close, intimate relationship with us just as a friend would. We can bring anything to Him in prayer, because He already knows everything about us and loves us anyway! How amazing is that? So come before God today as you would a friend. Let Him know what is on your heart and trust that He cares and He is listening.
Make Prayer Feel More Natural through Community
In addition to incorporating prayer into your daily life and making a habit of it, you are able to make prayer feel more natural by surrounding yourself with people who already have what you are looking for–a regular and comfortable prayer life. Talking to others who already know how to do what you are trying to learn is a great way to get some extra tips or simply to have someone to relate to who values the same things as you do. Make a few Christian mom friends, set up plans with someone you admire from your church, or reach out to an established Christian you know in your personal life. You are also always welcome to hop over to my group and meet some of the awesome Christian SAHMs in there!
Please drop a comment below sharing any questions or thoughts you have and I will do my best to answer each one personally and quickly.
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