How to Be the Perfect Mom for Your Kids
Being a SAHM is hard. There is no way that we were meant to walk this path alone. And luckily, we don’t have to!
If you are a loyal reader of Uninvincible Mom, you may already know why I created this site and what the word that isn’t really a word (uninvincible) actually means. If not, you can check out the about page, but I’ll briefly explain here…
I know that I can’t do this on my own, and I know that the only One who can truly help me is Christ.
I am not invincible. I am susceptible to failure, to falling short, to making mistakes. I am far from being “super mom,” and I’m totally cool with that, because honestly, I’m overwhelmed enough as it is without trying to be perfect.
But you know the crazy thing?
By me freely admitting that and choosing to accept Christ’s sacrifice for my sin, I am made perfect.
And you are, too.
Am I a Bad Mom?
Every mama I know struggles with mom guilt in some form or another.
As Christians, we have been baptized with Christ and have committed to a life of trying to be just like Him.
Yes, we are going to have days where we yell, act on our flawed human emotions, or threaten to throw away all our kids’ toys (or is that just me 🤦♀️😂)…
But if we are truly living our faith, we are also going to show God’s love to our kids through repentance and changed behavior.
Every day, we learn and grow.
Every day, we get a little better at tapping into the power of the Holy Spirit, to turn away from sin and the bad habits we have clung to–paving the way for our children to do the same.
By striving to be more like Christ, we learn to rely more on God to sanctify us and mold us into who He created us to be–which therefore makes us better parents along the way.
He will not let you mess this up! Just make sure you are holding fast to Christ, which is the key to being the best kind of mom that there is!
Do I Do Enough for My Kids?
No matter how much we do all week (cooking, cleaning, organizing, sports, classes, day trips, reading, playing… the list goes on!), there is always that lingering feeling that we aren’t doing enough for our kids–that we aren’t enough for them.
Well, technically, we aren’t enough 🤷♀️
If we were, none of us, including our kids, would need God in the first place!
But the amazing thing about motherhood is that God created us specifically and perfectly for our children.
We are a perfect fit! Before we were even created, God chose me for my son and He chose my son for me.
I was created to be his mom, and I get to experience a glimpse of God’s love for me (and for him!) through the love that we share with one another.
My son thinks I am the perfect mom and loves me despite my flaws and shortcomings.
The Bible mentions frequently the importance of love, or loving others, and this is where I believe that we are certainly doing enough–because, at least for me, the most loving I can be and the most love I can give goes right to my son.
Love is the motivation behind all we do as moms. The places we take our children, the rules we set for them, everything we provide for them…
This, to me, gives insight into God’s perfect and unconditional love.
And that, coupled with raising them to love Him deeply in return, is the best, most “enough” gift, that we could ever give our children.
Am I Doing a Good Job as a Mom?
I believe that motherhood is a calling.
Even if you weren’t planning or expecting to have children, once you became pregnant you were called to be a mom (and for some people, it was long before that).
We are called not only to take care of a child, but to model crucial aspects of God’s own character.
Just as any other calling, God is working with us to ensure our success for His glory.
As long as we are trusting in and relying on God, doubting whether we are doing a good job is like doubting His authority and sovereignty over our children’s lives.
We are not powerful enough to interfere with His perfect plan, we are only vessels of God’s love, authority, and grace while we have the honor to fulfill this role.
No matter how much we falter, if we are serving Christ in our mothering and aligning ourselves to His will, He is picking up the pieces where we fall short.
How to Be a Perfect Mom
So, just to recap, being a perfect mom is actually pretty simple:
- You are made perfect in Christ. Keep growing closer to Him and pursuing righteousness rather than sitting comfortably in sin.
- Teach your children about God, and do your best to model His law and love for them.
- Trust God in His sovereignty. He is working all things out for His glory and the ultimate good–including your life and the life of your child.
Sometimes, being a perfect parent just comes down to a perspective change: remembering where our Strength truly comes from, and doing all that we can to preserve and grow in the life-giving relationship that allows us to be the perfect parents we were created for our children to be.
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