Why You Need Christian Mom Friends
One of the reasons I started this blog was to help other moms find the resources and amazing support that I received from those around me when I was a new mom. Having mom friends has been an insanely huge factor in my parenting success–probably second in line to my relationship with Christ. And, while all of my mom friends have been amazing, I found out how important it is to build a community specifically of Christian mom friends that you can depend on. There are just certain things that we need, as Christians, that comes only from communion with other Christians (and the same goes for moms). It is important to me to have people who can remind me to pray, to read my bible, to push me to grow spiritually, and who will grow alongside me and understand the motivations behind that growth. Motherhood is an entirely new experience, and it is hard enough trying to discern what God wants us to do with our own lives, let alone our children’s! Having other moms praying for you and checking in with you is so important. I have recently noticed that God has placed a calling on my heart to expand my number of Christian mom friends, and I have a pretty good idea why–edifying relationships help us grow closer to Christ!
We are called to community in Christ. When we are walking in that calling, amazing things will happen in our lives and the lives of those around us! Let’s break down some of those reasons that we truly need Christian mom friends:
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ, from Whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.
This is probably the main reason I am suggesting friends who share your faith rather than any other kind of friends–and not because unsaved people can’t bring great perspective and fulfilling conversations into your life. As Christians, we need to be living a life that reflects Christ and the truth of the Bible. That means that we need like-minded people who are rooted in the same beliefs to bounce ideas off of, share our struggles with, ask for direction or advice, and so on.
It is so important to have people in your life who are open to Godly wisdom and are able to speak truth into your life. Sometimes we just really need to hear words of confirmation from scripture from those willing to be used as a vessel by the Holy Spirit! If we are committed to living a life that aligns with scripture, we need to surround ourselves with people who are committed to the same and who won’t be afraid to tell us when we are falling off course or to give us the hard truth about our situation with abounding love.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
As you know, the Bible gives us some pretty descriptive guidelines about how to support and love those around us. This should make for some pretty amazing friendships if we are following through and are choosing Christian mom friends who are doing their best to follow through as well. Valuable traits like self-sacrifice, bearing each others’ burdens (Galatians 6:2), and laying down our lives for our friends (John 15:13)–can you imagine the depth and joy that comes from a relationship like that?! Do you have any friendships like that right now?
You need a community of women to share in your successes, failures, losses, and gains. To celebrate those good times with you and to help you through the hard times. We also all need to be that person for someone else!
Accountability & Encouragement
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
This is the action part of a meaningful friendship. Good Christian mom friends are going to help you grow closer to God. As I mentioned earlier, this could look like keeping you accountable to read your bible, pray for others, get to church or your bible study, or any number of things. Sometimes just having someone to ask if we accomplished our task or shoot us an encouraging text message is just what we need to persevere when we don’t think that we have time or start getting overwhelmed with all of our mommy responsibilities. Someone to pray for us (or with us!), show up when we need a friend, and be a real example of God’s love in our lives.
And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe[a] came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.
Being part of a strong group of Christian mom friends, you are going to be discipled, disciple them, and attract & disciple others! We are called to be different, and living that example along with your friends is going to make it easier for all of you to grow–together and separately–in Christ, and attract others who want to do the same. By being a united front, all working hard to live the same lifestyle even when it is hard, others will be attracted to that and want what we have. Be the light! Grow with your friends & go out and make more!
Finding Christian Mom Friends
I hope that you are encouraged to take that leap of faith and start making connections with the women around you. Maybe you know women from church or bible study. Maybe you can get more involved with your (or other local) church’s events, or other Christian events in your area–even conferences or retreats. Our church has a play group for moms with kids, which would be a great place to meet other moms in your church or your area! I’d love to hear any other recommendations you have on meeting or making Christian mom friends in the comments!
*Scripture quotations are from The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
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